The definition of Offense (according to Webster) is:
1. An illegal act, 2. annoyance or resentment brought about by a perceived insult …
In the Greek it is Skandalon – A stick for bait, generally a snare, a stumbling block
According to Webster it is a perceived wrong. When we get offended we are not looking at the situation through God’s eyes but through veiled, flesh covered eyes. An in-depth meaning of Skandalon is: How someone is caught by their own devices, (like their personal bias, carnal thinking). Again, this definition shows how we are looking at the situation through our own veiled eyes, not God’s eyes.
When we get offended we are tripping ourselves up in our walk with–and witness for–God. We have enough stuff trying to trip us up without trying to trip our own selves up.
And do not bring sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit by the way you live…Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as evil types of behavior.Ephesians 4:30&31
The Amplified says of verse 31:
“Let all bitterness and indignation and wrath (passion, rage, bad temper) and resentment (anger, animosity) and quarreling (brawling, clamor, contention) and slander (evil-speaking, abusive or blasphemous language) be banished from you, with all malice (spite, ill-will or baseness of any kind).”
All of those things sound like offense to me, like what happens when we get offended.
Back to verse 30, holding onto an offense goes against everything God teaches us so I think it’s safe to say that being offended brings sorrow to God. Offense creates a circle of anger, bitterness, ill-speaking, etc. that won’t end until we decide to stop being offended. Will it be easy? No probably not. Like everything, it will be a war between our renewed self and our carnal flesh. Will it be impossible? No. All things are possible through Christ Who strengthens me. It may be hard, but thankfully we have had the best example. Basically. We need to stop being offended and start forgiving.
Jesus forgave those who abused Him, spoke falsely against Him, harassed Him, and killed Him. As His family, we can do no less to those who do the same, and less if we’re honest, to us. So the solution to being offended is to follow Jesus’ example and to forgive. Forgive even as it’s happening.
To read Part One, go here: https://abovemywaves.home.blog/2019/11/19/taking-offense/