Taking offense, apart from being a sin itself, leads to other sins. James 3:5 says, ” But a tiny spark can set a great forest on fire.” One little spark of offense can lead to things like: Ungodly anger, suspicion, unkind words, defiance, hate, etc. Offense leads us away from God and prevents us from showing God’s love to others. One of my best friends once said, “Don’t take offense, take the gate”. Jesus is the gate. When I want to get offended, I need to remember Jesus Who never got offended unrighteously.
But when the leading priests and elders made their accusations against Him, Jesus remained silent.Matthew 27:12
Matthew 26:63 tells us that amidst the accusations and harassing, “Jesus remained silent”. Even in His “trial” before Pilate, Jesus remained silent. These people were lying about Him. Jesus could have easily gotten offended, defended Himself, and been set free, but if He had then who would have died on the cross to save us from sin and give us eternal life with the Father? No one. If Jesus had gotten offended (or acted on that offense) then God’s pan would not have been fulfilled.
When angry, do not sin; do not ever let your wrath (your exasperation, your fury, or indignation) last until the sun goes down.Ephesians 4:26 amp.
Being offended can’t always be helped, but acting on it can be. Another thing is to not hold on to any offenses. Too often I get offended at something and hold on to it for the rest of the day, and sometimes even into the next day. How does that reflect a God Who has said, “I will remember your sin no more, I will cast it as far from Me as the East is to the West.”? Quite frankly, it doesn’t.
As a child of God, one who has His imprint on my life, I need to immediately forgive the offense and the one who offended. If I am to speak then I need to speak with love and respect. If I don’t speak then I still need to forgive. Not saying anything does not give me license to become sulky and angry. Even being quietly angry is a sin. Yes others may not be able to see it, but God does. Being quietly angry in unrighteous anger is a sin against God. We are called to love God and to love people (Matt. 22:37-39). How is being offended, or at least holding on to that offense, loving people? Again, it’s not.